When I was eleven, one girl that I was close to, used to make fun of my friendship with a guy. She was suggesting that we were homosexual, and I didn’t exactly understand what she was saying at that time.
Turns out she was partially right: I am not a heterosexual guy. But it took me many years after that, to realize that I am asexual.
I’m not androgyne, but I present as androgynous. Presenting as androgynous makes me more comfortable than presenting as masculine or feminine.
I’ve been trying to understand why. I think both my genders made a truce when I was not around, and decided that I would present as androgynous, as a middle ground.
Another possibility is that I shift genders too frequently, so presenting as androgynous is the only way out.
What is the difference between bigender and genderfluid? I’ve seen different explanations:
- Bigender as a subset of genderfluid identity. For instance, bigender people with male and female genders never have androgynous gender.
- Bigender means the two genders are separate but can coexist simultaneously, while genderfluid people have only one gender at any time.
I have something to add: most genderfluid people have a single sexuality that is independent of their gender, while most bigender/multigender people have a separate sexuality for each gender.